If you are aware that the abusive partner has a history of violence, is aggressive, or you have any other concerns for your well-being – do not intervene. You always have the option of making an anonymous 911 call.
Other things you might consider doing:
- Speak with the person you believe is at risk, in person, the next day. You might greet that person with a question like, “Hey, I heard some noises that concerned me last night. Are you okay?”
- Be sure to approach the person in a safe, private space, listen to them carefully and believe what they have to say.
- Never blame the person or ask what they did to “provoke” their partner.
- Let them know the abuse isn’t their fault, and that they deserve support.
- You might give them C4DP’s contact information. 24-Hour Bilingual Hotline 415.924.6616
- If you are ever concerned for the individual’s immediate safety (or your own), you do have the right to contact the police. You can request a wellness check, anonymously.
- If the survivor decides to press charges against the abusive partner, your statement can be one way to help them document what they’ve experienced.